As children we all knew the unconditional freedom, love and simplicity that may now seem so elusive.
That childlike innocence of having no clue what life or we in life 'should' look like.
Just natural spontaneity and endless curiosity; natural acceptance. Greeting each moment innocently with eyes, heart and mind wide open.
We sometimes reflect back and miss the times when life seemed so safe, innocent, simple and free in its natural unfolding.
We associate our child like contentment with those people and circumstances ‘back there’.
We had no sense of responsibility; we claimed no blame, shame or guilt for any natural unfolding (that was imposed later). We didn’t think we ‘knew’ everything, we didn’t try to make sense out of every experience, it just was!
If there was arguing, there was arguing. If there were hugs there were hugs. If someone died, they died, there maybe be tears. Nothing was held or ruminated over. It came… It went... without doubt or analysis paralysis :).
As a child there is such a sense of inherent belonging, even if life is what could be labelled as dysfunctional. It is all the child knows and it doesn’t have any sense of ‘this shouldn’t be happening’.
It feels at home in life however the life appears.
This is what the adult misses.
This ‘at home’ feeling; this inherent ‘okness’ IS the unconditional love that we seek as we age and our building blocks of concepts build imaginary walls around our hearts and freedom just to ‘be’.
We begin to absorb ideas that this moment could have alternatives…could be ‘better’…that ‘I’ should be ‘better. This imagined idea IS the suffering.
There is no alternative to what is…just imagined ideas of alternatives. Punishing ourselves with imagined ‘hindsight’. As though we could have approached a moment differently, of course we couldn’t; the moment always plays imperfectly perfectly, EXACTLY as it plays.
We mistakenly associate the sense of inherent okness with people, places, times and circumstances that were ‘preferable’
So when those circumstances change, when those people and places no longer appear in our life, the way the mind would ‘prefer’ we can feel as though our inherent okness is threatened, as though something is missing.
Nothing is ever missing….only imagination; ‘thought’ and ‘belief’ convinces us of lack and separation.
The okness, the ‘at home’ feeling, the safety and love is ALWAYS inside us... in 'being.'
It just seemed to be in your relationship with another.
It just seemed to be in those particular set of circumstances; that time, that space.
It just seemed to be with that beloved pet, or father, or mother or husband or best friend.
They’ve never left you…there’s only presence and it is infinite….it includes everything that has ever been or will ever be…but a limited mind could never grasp this :)….
Contentment just seems to exist in that projected, preferred , idealistic scenario…it’s all imagination!
Contentment is always here…beyond the mental projections of our minds.
The Love, the peace, the contentment was, is and will always be in EVERYTHING, in EVERY appearance as life naturally unfolds, however it appears. Always right here...Now.
There is no separation.
Only thought or mind abstracts out and seemingly separates this mysterious, magical, unknowable play of life in to time, space and ‘parts.’
Our beloveds, our favourite times and places are eternally here within and as this One infinite moment….
Presence….
There is no separation in Love.
Love is beyond the realm of thought, abstraction and definition.
….and yet inclusive of all of it!
So when thought tries to pull you in to regret of past or anxiety of future...just remember it's all made up!
All that is 'real' is this moment...and how 'real' is it?
How real are your dreams at night?....
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